Wealth File #12 – Think “Both”
Rich people think “both.”
Poor people think “either/or.”
Rich people exist in a world of abundance. Poor people live in a world of boundaries. Of course, both are present in the same physical world, but the difference is in how they look at things. Those who belong to the middle-class as well as the poor come from scarcity. They believe in sayings like “There’s only so much to go around, there’s never enough, and you can’t have everything.” And even if the possibility to have “everything” is slim, as all the all the things in the world, I do believe you can certainly have “everything you really want.”
What do you want to have? A great career or do you prefer a close connection with your family? Both! Do you want to make business your center of attention or have quality time for fun and play? Both! Do you want to make a good fortune or have the option to do the work that you love? Both! Most of the time, poor people only choose one while rich people choose to have both.
Rich people believe that it will only require a little imagination for you to find a way to gain the best of both worlds.
So, from this point on, if you have to deal with an either/or option, the ideal question to ask yourself is “How can I have both?” This question will alter your life. It will take you from a model of insufficiency and restrictions to a universe filled with great promise and abundance.
This doesn’t just apply to things that you desire. It is relevant to all areas of life. For instance, right now, I’m getting ready to deal with a discontent supplier that thinks my company, Peak Potentials, should be responsible and pay for some expenses they’ve had that weren’t agreed upon in the beginning. As for me, I think he is responsible in estimating his costs, not me, and if he exceeded his budget, that’s something he has to solve on his own. I am prepared to have a new agreement next time, but keeping agreements that were already made is important for me.
When I was “broke”, I’d go into this conversation with the aim of making my point and making sure I don’t pay this guy even a single cent more than we agreed upon. And even if I’d want to keep him as a supplier, this would probably lead to a big disagreement. For me, it is either he wins or I win.
However, now a days, I’ve taught myself to consider “both” terms, I’m going to have this conversation with the hope of creating a situation where I’m not going to pay him any more money and he’s going to be satisfied with the arrangements we do make. Therefore, my objective is to have both!
Source: Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker © 2003